Getting your kids to clean their room is no easy deal. Few kids like to keep their rooms neat and clean whereas a majority of children just don’t care about cleanliness factor. Well, reasons could be genetic or learned behaviour. Parents often choose between two options of cleaning the room themselves or try to be patient while instructing kids about how to keep their room clean. Parents actually need to develop patience while training kids about how exactly they should keep their rooms tidy and neat. Cleanliness does not mean stuffing toys under the bed or simply forcing things into closets. That’s far from organizing things. (more…)
Does your kid throw tantrums on a regular basis? Well, you are not the only parents to suffer from this problem. Parents all across the globe go through child tantrum issue. The main reason behind this occurrence is new found autonomy by the children. Children start doing things on their own, they decide about their clothes, making new friends and a hint of independent streak starts emerging. But the high of this independence factor is quite restricted by parental control. When children don’t find things going their way, they start feeling frustrated and as a result of that venting their ire through tantrums seem to be only logical way out.
Some of the basic reasons behind temper and tantrums shown by kids are boredom, frustration, hunger and exhaustion. A toddler can easily get frustrated for N number of things. It could be as simple as not being able to switch on the light or television. Boredom is again natural to kids as they can’t sit still in one position. They need to keep moving and if their movement is restricted they start feeling bored and irritated.
Toddlers need to eat more frequently than an adult and that explains why hunger is most often the prime reason behind child’s tantrums. Parents must keep in mind when was the last time the child had snacks. So before your toddler starts throwing tantrums you must be aware of his eating cycle and when he might start feeling hungry again.
Sleep is another important issue here. A child needs to have his siesta and many a times temper tantrums emerge when child is devoided of a good sleep. Try to establish a sleeping routine for kid. Parents must also use different distraction method when child starts demanding for unreasonable things. To end with, tantrums are a normal part of growing up phase of the kid and it cannot be completely avoided. But yes, with little bit of effort and attention you can always minimise it.
Manners are perhaps one of the most important constituent of a child’s personality. But teaching right set of manners and etiquettes can be a challenging task for parents. Going by the way new generation is emerging; some of the old school manners seem to be vanishing. The rebellious streak has taken a toll on manners. But if you teach your kid manners from a very early age, he will be most likely to have those even in his youth. Manners form a valuable part of social skills and they will serve as a useful help for the rest of the child’s life.
Parents should lead by example. Just conveying message to your kid will not suffice. A child needs to see you practicing what you preach. So if you are teaching your kid about the best method of approaching a stranger or a sales person in a store, you need to show it first by saying it yourself. Children are quick learner and they get the drift while watching from close quarters. Manners are learned naturally and if the kid finds you inconsistent with your behaviour he might embarrass you by mentioning it.
If your child is not showing enough mannerism you need to take things in control and tell them properly how best to do what they are doing. Though, peer interaction can also affect how a child behaves. But these things are always easy to correct when kid is younger. As he grows older he will make a habit of undesirable manners and then it becomes tough to handle. So the best time to start teaching manners to child is now only.
Modern age has given us many comforts but at the same time, it has also caused some concerns among parents. Television is omnipresent in almost every household. Kids love to watch TV but experts caution against negative influence of television on children. Many television programs including movies and serials etc are full of violence and this adversely affects children. It’s up to the parents where to draw the line and keep our kids safe from such influences.
Television programs of yesteryears did not use to be this violent. The contents have become more explicit. Whenever a child turn on the TV and witnesses violence, explicit scenes and obscene languages, his mind becomes vulnerable to such programs. Most of the programs on cable TV contain objectionable items. In other words, majority of television programs are only suitable for adult viewing and not for kids. There are few cartoon channels or news channels that are entertaining for kids but parents cannot always keep a tab on remote. Children love to watch television programs and especially songs, videos and movies. These programs have a very powerful influence on behaviour of the kids.
Studies show that too much of television may cause children to become numb or immune to the horror of violence. Children are unable to differentiate between real life violence and reel life violence. Another dangerous effect could be in form of reducing humane factor. Kids could also interpret that violence is the only way of solving problems.
Parents can limit the time children watch TV. Parents should also encourage kids to indulge in other more vigorous activities like sports or reading children’s books. Constant TV viewing makes mind dull. Help your kid in nurturing a hobby. Also try to keep a tab on what kids are watching and be very strict about it. Parents must get themselves involved with kids from an early age and try to nullify negative effects of TV on kids’ minds.
Teenage is one of most troubled phases in a person’s life. Educational changes, hormonal changes and getting aware of new things on a regular basis makes this period extremely volatile. One of the important things parents need to teach in this phase is of handling money. Handling money appropriately does not come to everyone easily. Parents need to instil this virtue in the kids. Many parents are going through the problem of their teenagers’ inability to understand the value of the money. It requires years of hard work to earn respectable amount of money.
Teaching this value will require parents to have patience and adopt the understanding approach. One of the basic things that they can do is to have the teen some money and let him decide how to spend it, how much to save and if they are confused, helping them out. This is one skill your child is going to cherish forever if you teach him this value at the right time. Parents need to make child understand the value of money by taking them on shopping. They can demonstrate what to buy, what not to buy, what is worth buying and what to ignore. Also teach them, how bargaining is done and how to handle to handle the marketing gimmick.
If given a chance, allow your teen to earn some money doing odd jobs, daily chores or even a part time job. This by no means is disrespectful and child will have a wonderful experience about learning the value of money. Parents should allow child to decide their own shopping expenditures. Even if they have some bad experiences, they will learn quickly. You can also open a saving account for your child so that he can save some of his savings. Invest on the teaching money value on your teens and it is sure to return you good dividends.
Parents usually face the problems of having angry children. Anger, as we all know is quite dangerous. It is one of the most powerful negative energy that is capable of wreaking havoc. It is also a symbol of vent of frustration. If you have a child who is suffering from sudden bouts of anger, it is definitely a cause of worry. Parents must not take this thing lightly. Angry children have a bleak future if not guided and controlled early in life. Parents must pay immediate attention to the children afflicted with anger issues. Ager management is the key here. It is not only recommended for adults but also for kids.
If a child has got anger issues is rather easy to identify. For example, child will be prone to bouts of anger at slightest of provocations. He will display an obstinate behaviour. Simplest of issues will make him shout, yell and behave violently. If the child’s anger is turning into violent behaviour then that is a sure shot sign of trouble. Anger syndrome of child is dangerous for him as well as for his parents. It could include some short term as well as long term threats. He will have an imbalanced daily life. Child will feel alienated in school or family and that will further aggravate the situation.
Parents must take necessary steps to get rid of this problem. They should instil values in the child that will make him more accountable and responsible for his actions. Parents must be patient while dealing with angry kids. There is no point in parents getting angry as well. Keep your cool and calm and deal with situation in a soothing and understanding manner. Take care of his surroundings, his group, exposure to TV and violent video games etc. If nothing works, try to consult a counsellor.
A newly born baby is a sight to behold and a feeling to cherish. Try holding a young one or a newborn baby for few seconds and imagine the joy you would be getting. Everyone loves to hold and cuddle a baby but taking care of them requires more responsibility and dedication. If you are a first time mother or father, it will even be slightly difficult for you. But then there are certain guidelines following which you will be more equipped to handle your new born baby. A new born baby normally sleeps for 16 hours and you must provide her comfortable sleeping surroundings. Don’t fret if the baby is sleeping for long hours as that’s quite normal considering new born babies are not fully develop.
If you bottle feed your baby then make sure bottle is thoroughly washed and sterilized. The process of sterilizing is quite simple. All you have to do is to clean the bottle and then boil it for some time to get rid of the germs. Its winter time so parents must be prepared for that with woollen clothes, sweaters and trousers. These things will protect baby from the cold climate. During the summer, have pure cotton clothes for the baby because of the comfort factor.
Use bathing tub or seat while bathing your baby. Be very careful when you bathe your little bundle of joy. Use good quality baby cream or lotion to massage. Take time to take special care of the baby. Give her a caring and protective environment. Attend to her needs. Make baby feel loved and cared. That will help in her growth as a confident and competent person. If you devote enough time on your baby, she will turn out to be a healthy individual with a positive outlook in life.
Every parent wants his child to respect elders. But that is not the case. Many parents often complain about how to make their kid respect adults. This disrespect can be in form of words or actions. It is the duty and responsibility of the parents to instil that value in the child. Children learn all the crucial values of life from the parents. The seeds of such behaviour start from toddler stage only. The process must begin with parents teaching their child to respect their parents. A child normally mimics the words of his parents. The common word used by the child is ‘No’. They learn this word from the parents. While raising a child, it is important that parents choose their words carefully because it is going to affect them in the long run. Developing a healthy sense of love and respect is of uttermost importance.
While a baby begins his life with walk and crawl, he feels curious about each and every thing. During that period parents often say no for things they find appropriate. The habit of ‘No’ develops from here. Once your child grows old and still keeps saying no every now and then, that’s a cause of worry. Parents need to change this habit of his quickly. Don’t take this habit jokingly because this is turning out to be a dangerous habit. The behavioural change process should start from there. Parents should better nip this habit in the bud.
Children have this habit of touching the boundaries before final withdrawal. Discipline is quite important so that your child grow up to be a responsible adult. Parents should also be consistent in their behaviour. They should maintain a stand and stick to it.
Parenting requires utmost dedication and balance. It is a blissful responsibility that also entails some common problems faced by all the parents. One of the common problems handled by parents is of sibling rivalry. Having two kids in a house is like double edged sword. On one hand, they both can play with each other, be engrossed in one another and at the same time it also runs the risk frequent fights with one another. Parents face a hard time during such crisis situation. The first thing parents should avoid is of taking sides. Know what is right and who is wrong. There is no point taking unnecessary tension because this is a common occurrence in every second household. Try having a neutral role. Parents should also be sensible in handling each child’s issues because of its long lasting impact.
Parents can try to observe how kids are behaving when fight breaks out. It will be a learning experience for them as well. Each kid has a different method of handling tension and fight. There is also a silver lining beneath the dark cloud and that is during fights and afterwards, children can learn about terms like negotiations, adjustment, compromise and agreements. Sometimes, you won’t be even required there and children will sort out issues in themselves. Sibling rivalry will give you a chance to know inside the mind of a child and how he tackles stress and anger.
Parents should ideally step in when things are getting out of control. Make it clear to the warring kids that violence and breaking of items will not be tolerated at all. Parents can also try to divert attention of the kids to some other things like TV, sports or some game. Parents must be fair minded and patient.